I was listening the radio this morning and they asked a question that I’ve heard many women discuss. My best friend and I have even had this discussion and she is always stumped by my stance.
The morning dj asked is it okay to snoop on your significant other. Most of the women answered that it was okay. A few said they should have all the passwords and be allowed to snoop whenever they feel they have a reason to. A very small percentage felt they should have all the passwords but never use them.
There was one lone female who asked, “why do you need the passwords or to snoop at all? If you have to do that there’s no trust and why would you be in a relationship without trust?” My first thought was hallelujah, a voice reason in all of this trustless madness (did I mention that I occasionally make up words). I could empathize completely because that’s how I feel about it.
I have plenty of Jaime’s passwords and he has plenty of mine. It’s not because either of us have ever asked it’s because we occasionally open accounts or check them for each other. There are limitations, even though we often use each others phones or computers, we don’t snoop. I have no idea what’s in his email, texts, call history, or IMs and he would tell you the same. I’m a firm believer that you can’t have a good relationship without trust.
My best friend says that because of her exes she can’t trust men. I say because of my ex I can’t trust my ex. I have complete trust in Jaime. The way I see it all the snooping in the world won’t help me trust him any more or less. As I always heard growing up, “what’s done in the dark will soon come to light.” If there’s something going on it could only be hidden for so long so why stress about something I’ll know sooner later. It’s like always worrying about what may come and not dealing with what is. Besides I’ve got other things to do then make a job out of checking up on the man I love.
Trust is humongous in our relationship and I’m glad that we both feel the same way and don’t think it’s worth it making a career out of snooping on each other.
What’s your opinion on snooping? Do you sometimes do it? If you don’t, what do you think of others that do?information
Last night I said that I would be posting later and I really wanted to but then Qiarra happened. She is officially 16 now. We had waited to go pick up her birthday gifts because there is nowhere in the house that we can lock them away.
For her birthday she has been asking for a collector’s edition of Risk. We decided to give in and take her to pick it up, by time she was done she had gone through her birthday budget. Once we got home it was time to play Risk. I knew what the game was but hadn’t played it growing up. Looking back, with my attention span that was probably a good thing. We played with her brother, 12 and sister, 9. The game felt like it took eternity to end. Believe me, the 9 year old was so excited when all of her territory was invaded by and lost to her big sister. About that time, Giavonni and I started whining about the fact that we just wished we would take our territories next. Vonni and I actually took turns begging and pleading for the pain and agony to end, yes it was that bad. The game finally ended after 6 hours at 3:00 am.
Then today, even after knowing better I still agreed to play because even at 16 she’s still my baby and I couldn’t hurt my baby’s feelings by saying no. We started about 6:00 pm today and Jaime and Vonni are still playing right now. Qiarra forfeited first at 10:00 and I finally just quit. I wouldn’t mind never playing again but of course I will because Qiqi will ask me to.
It always means so much to her when we spend time together and I get it because the bonds between a mother and daughter are special. As my oldest we share a special relationship. A day will come when she will know everything and I’ll be useless. So until that day I’ll cherish all the time we spend together even if it’s spent playing Risk.
*note even though this posted at 12:28 pm, I finished writing this post at 1:00 am
I have been a bit quiet for a few days and that is because I have been working on my other various blogs and making improvements (in my opinion to each of them). I am going to take as much time as possible today to write up a few posts for this site and my fun site so that I can get a little bit ahead. I have to take a few days out next week because Qiarra is finally turning 16 on Monday and we are heading out of town near the end of the week so the grandparents can spend some time with the birthday girl. I will also be doing at least a 2 part post dedicated to my buddies. I feel you are all worth reading and hopefully others that aren’t reading your blogs might find them and start.
I will be back a little later today with my post for today.
A special blog buddy of mine, SoapBird, did not like my very empty brand new recipe page so she told me I could use a recipe of hers. Here is the original recipe on her site, Pecan Pork Chops and Penne Pasta. Trust me you should take a look at her site and ask her about her soap too.
1-cup of finely chop pecans
1/2-cup of dry bread crumbs (up 1-cup)
1/2 tsp paprika
1/4 tsp each: salt, oregano, cayenne pepper, 1/4-cup flour, 6- (4oz) boneless (or bone-in) pork chops
?Mix together: pecans, crumbs, salt, paprika, oregano, cayenne pepper.
Put flour, milk and nut mix in separate bowls. Coat meat in flour, dip in buttermilk then dip in nut mix.
Chill for 1 hr.
Tip: I like to taste the dry nut mix first before coating the meat, just in-case more seasoning is needed. Add seasoning to your liking.
Bake at 375 for 30 up to 45 minutes (longer depending on the thickness of your chops. If left to cook too long your pork chops will be dry.
Cook pasta according to package directions. While pasta is cooking add tomatoes and garlic to pan and drizzle with Wine Vinegar or drizzle with Olive Oil for about 1-2 minutes, just long enough heat tomatoes and spinach.
Here is how it looks after cooking. My little one likes her spinach wilted.
Drain pasta and add spinach, garlic, diced tomatoes and peppers to pasta. Add salt & pepper to your liking and lightly coat pasta with olive oil.
Tip: I added extra ingredients: cilantro, green chili, jalapeno peppers for heat. I like hot and spicy foods!
This is a recipe I love to make it’s very simple. You need a skillet and slow cooker.
1 pound sliced bacon
1 large onion, chopped
1 pound ground beef
1 can (31 ounces) pork and beans
1 can (30 ounces) kidney beans, rinsed and drained
1 can (15 ounces) great northern beans, rinsed and drained
1 cup ketchup
1/3 cup packed brown sugar
3 tablespoons vinegar
1 tablespoon liquid smoke (optional)
Tip: When a recipe calls for diced bacon, cut the bacon with kitchen shears directly into the skillet
I will be making this dish for my family and updating it with pictures.
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