For the second half of this year hair as been very important to me. I think it has played a bigger part than when I was in my teens to 20s and trying to catch a man. Now it is more defining of who I am and how I feel about myself. With that in mind there have been major changes and decisions made with my hair this year.
Around August I decided that I was very unhappy with the condition of my hair. It was damaged and I had lots of breakage but didn’t know what to do with it. That’s when I made the first major decision, I was going to stop relaxing it and go natural. I had no idea how to do this without chopping off all my hair and just starting over. I did some research and found out it was possible to do, it’s called transitioning of course, while not looking completely crazy but it would take a little work. It probably would have been easier if I had done the big chop but I am a little attached to my hair and so is Jaime.
This did not start well at all. I originally wore a ponytail until early November the only exception was when I went out with the girls. On those occasions if we were just at some one’s house it was the ponytail but if we actually went out then I had to style it. Since there is a line of demarcation, the exact line between the chemically treated hair and the new growth, the hair is pretty delicate in that exact spot and I could easily tell the differences in my hair. I first tried heat styling because it seems to work for some but not me, I had some weird limp look. So I just gave up again and started staying home.
Around the beginning of November I found a website with lots of tips and even some hairstyles. This has been my hair savior ever since. I now have about 4 inches of new hair, it’s a long process, and I go out looking a human sometimes even a cute one.
It is a very long hair regimen though so I dedicate a day every week to do it. I don’t exclusively use all natural products like some women have chosen to do but I do use things that are not damaging my hair and that my hair likes. Trust me I can tell when my hair doesn’t like something now. Simply put though on the days I do my hair I wash, then wet set it on about 80 flexi rods which takes about 2 1/2 hours if I’m really trying to get it done but it can take up to 4. Then I let it dry for about 4 more hours at least. Take out the flexi rods and wear it for a week then do it all over again. In the beginning I thought is this really all worth it. Now I now it is because even if I decide to go back to a relaxer after all of this, my plan now is to not do that, I will be doing so knowing that my hair is healthier and I do still like my hair.
When I look in the mirror these days I’m already much happier with the hair I have on my head.
I finally have all my blogs working together. I will now have to update more often, add pics, and generally keep the world much more informed of my wondrous and illustrious opinions on everything. You will find though that I do not post my opinion on world events immediately but will instead wait until I am not just feeling the impact but thinking about it too. I find that I like blogging better when I don’t insist on a strict hardline schedule. I will blog though and within the next 48 hours I will post my year in review and memorable events from this past year, separate posts of course. The time limit was placed because I want this all done before December 31. That’s my 39th birthday and I don’t plan on doing anything but sitting around all day and being waited on hand and foot.
This is my most recent attempt to get all of my blogs on the same page so to say. If this works as planned then I can just sit back and write knowing that one blog will not be eight months behind the other. I would like to be a more consistent blogger and this is step one hopefully.
Shhh! This is our little secret.
My 17-year-old doesn’t ever tell anyone anything because they may make a fuss over her and she gets a little anxious. I get to say it though because I am her proud mom and I told her if she didn’t tell people I would. My daughter who I am so proud of, I mean what mother isn’t? Is taking all AP and dual credit classes, is part of the EMT training program and will be able to take the state exam when school gets out for the summer. Is on the accounting academic team and health occupations students academic team, does volunteer work, and is ranked #11 out of her class of 505 (puts her in the top 2% of her class). This child of mine decided she was going to be an ophthalmologist but there is no undergrad school for that profession and she needed to apply to schools this year. She has dragged her feet something terrible all year about college, but she finally filled out her first choice application and got it completely submitted . She’s still missing the transcripts for her second choice school but she did drop off the request today and double checked that her teachers would be able to fill out the scholarship application with their parts. I just realized that I got a bit off track so here we go back where we were. She has been accepted to her first choice school already for their school of neuroscience program. It’s also in state, only about 40 minutes away, she wants to stay in the dorms and I’m okay with that. As a definite plus it’s reasonably priced, the tuition cost is guaranteed for her four years there, and she of course gets the in state tuition. I’m counting the room and board in the tuition cost and it’s still well priced. Do you understand now why I am a proud mom?
Must I repeat, I am so very proud of her and this was on my first try. I’ve still got two more kids to do and they all make me so very proud.
Like I said this is our secret so don’t tell her. Shhhh!
I would like to start by saying that these are my personal thoughts. I am putting them into the cyberverse and because of that you can and will read them, and then judge me by them. I am more than willing to accept that all I ask is that you respect my opinion and be civil as I would for you.
Those little angels and their protective adult angels have touched us all in one way or another. It was a situation that should never have happened and one that no parent should ever have to go through. Watching the news, as a parent, all I wanted was my children near me. As an adult who has had a gun pointed at me and then watched two of my friends get shot, one of which died over a really stupid reason, all I see is senselessness in these situations.
I have never owned a gun and just went with my uncle and children to a shooting range for the first time in my life less than two months ago. When the shooting that I become a victim of attempted murder in I lived in Phoenix. I now live in Dallas and this is a city/state where Groupons are common for gun classes and registrations. The city where if my child hops someone’s fence he can be shot legally.
I do not think this was just a gun control issue, a mental health issue, or a parenting issue but instead all the above. Do I think all guns should be banned? No! I don’t think there is any realistic way to keep guns out of the hands of people who really want to get them. I think the requirements to get guns should be more stringent and training should be more intense. I think any gun dealer who has sold a gun while violating gun laws should not get a fine but instead be closed permanently. I think that all gun owners should also be required to purchase gun lockers or lock boxes.
I do not own a gun or have any plans to get one and this is because of another reason. I have a mentally challenged brother who often goes through other people’s things and takes them without any one even knowing more than half the time. I don’t feel it is any way safe or responsible for me to have guns in my house under those circumstances. I think that is my parenting issue. I have done the primary raising of my brother since I was 13 years old and have raised as one of my own kids. Here we are 26 years later and I’m still doing it. Any decisions I make about the safety of my family has to take into consideration his mentally ability as well as the mental maturity of my children.
I think that there are many things that need to happen to stop these sad situations but it won’t happen overnight and it won’t happen by just addressing one of the issues instead of all of them.
I also have some opinions on the soldier who posted guard outside of the school. I understand and appreciate what he did but as a former military brat, daughter, granddaughter, family member, and girlfriend of veterans and currently enlisted military servicemen/women. As enlisted military though there are certain very specific rules and protocols that are not changed no matter what and unfortunately that soldier knew that when he went out in his dessert camos to stand guard in a public place. I regret what he is going through but I also know he had an idea of what might happen.
Remember the victims not the perpetrators.